I consider this article as a must read for all parents or parents-to-be. It’s short and to the point. Both men and women will find here information that few doctors talk about yet it is vital for a healthier family life:
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/08/well/family/the-birth-of-a-mother.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur^
I’ve long believed that the physiological and psychological changes that come with motherhood should be planned for accordingly, long before conception. The mother must have a supportive partner that understands a lot about what motherhood entails. Of course, it’s not impossible to ignore all this, but why not minimize the risks?
I’m quite sure that a lot of grief can be avoided if such information would be more wide-spread. There can be far less cries and misfortune for both babies and parents. Integrating children in one’s life shouldn’t be as difficult as the current “culture” seems to suggest.